Whether you think you are enough or whether you think you are not – you are right!

Our beliefs create our reality – it sounds like such a cliché, but it is true. The way we experience our life is very much shaped by our beliefs.

This often happens without us even realizing it. Most of us have a belief deep inside that is some form of “not being enough” – whether it’s not smart enough, beautiful enough, thin enough, successful enough, or interesting enough. We often go through life and interpret events based on this belief.

We don’t get the job we wanted, we don’t get invited to a party, we don’t hear back from a friend. It’s easy to immediately think that it’s because we are not good enough, not popular enough, not important enough. And because we like to be right, we continue to collect evidence that our belief is true.  

He didn’t call as he said he would. My friend wasn’t supportive when I talked to her about a problem. I didn’t get any comments or likes on my Facebook posting. So it must be true. I am really not good enough, not popular enough, not important enough.

I now also act a certain way based on my beliefs. Since I don’t believe I am good enough or important enough, I don’t tell people about my wants and needs. As a result, others don’t consider them. I don’t invite others over. So I don’t have friends coming to my place. I use this as further evidence that I am not important.

What would happen if I decided to believe something different? What if I decided that I was going to believe that I am good enough and important? I would start collecting evidence that this was true instead. A friend trusted me enough to confide in me, a colleague asked me out to lunch, my niece drew me a picture. So it must be true. I am really good enough and important.

And I start behaving a different way. I tell others about my needs and wants. I invite people over. I initiate conversations. So others consider what I need and want. My friends invite me in return. I have more meaningful interactions with people.

And I interpret events differently. I realize that not everything is because of me – people are busy, distracted, stressed, and are dealing with their own issues.

My experience of life is a completely different one, even with exactly the same life circumstances, based on this different belief.

We really do create our own reality. So select your belief carefully. Which one will you choose?