Friday, September 28, 2012

Finding True Happiness (Even If Life Doesn’t Go As Planned)

“You must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you.”
 ~Joseph Campbell

We often think we are in control of our own destiny. We have heard that if we plan, identify  goals, visualize, pray, think positively, set intentions, work hard, etc. we will get what we really want. But sometimes when we finally get what we thought we desired, we realize that it isn’t what we wanted at all.

I have talked to many professionals who have worked hard in their job, climbing up the career ladder, only to realize that their work didn’t give them the fulfillment they wanted. Singles who thought that finding a boyfriend or girlfriend would finally make them happy, only to realize that they still weren’t. People who finally got the dream house and sports car, but were still missing something.

It’s important to identify why we want to achieve a certain goal and dream, because oftentimes it’s not the goal and dream that is the key, but what we really want to experience and feel. If you want to find out what is really behind your dream, check out my previous blog post.

But life also has a strange way of throwing things into our path that we didn’t plan or wish for. There are unexpected hardships, illnesses, the loss of a loved one, a failing business, the betrayal of a friend etc. What then? We didn’t ask for any of these things to happen. They don’t fit the dream we had for our life. What do we do with them?

A natural reaction is often to resist those unwanted situations. “I didn’t ask for this to happen.” “I can’t believe this is happening.” “I wish this didn’t happen.” Maybe we start blaming someone else. But none of these reactions actually help us deal with the situation effectively.

We may not be able to change the situation, but we can choose who we want to be in this circumstance and how we want to act. We can ask ourselves: “What are my values?” Maybe it’s honesty or compassion, integrity or connection, courage or generosity, humor or peace? What is a way to deal with the situation in accordance to your values?

There is no perfect life. Nobody’s life ever goes completely according to plan. Everyone experiences unexpected turns at some point. It’s useless to wish it were otherwise. But that doesn’t mean that life can’t be joyful, peaceful and fulfilling. All we got to do is shift our focus from what is “happening to us” to how we want to be and how we want to act as a result. The one part we can take responsibility for is ourselves, and empower ourselves in the process.

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

You Are Wholly Complete

"You are wholly complete and your success in life will be in direct proportion to your ability to accept this truth about you."
~Dr. Robert Anthony

Friday, September 21, 2012

Finding Your Inner Peace

Have you ever had to make a decision and found it hard to figure out what to do, swinging back and forth between your options? Have you ever felt like your mind was spinning with negative thoughts, even though you were trying very hard to stop them? Have you ever felt overwhelmed with what was going on during your day and found it difficult to focus and gain clarity? 

Sometimes we need to find this quiet place within us to just breathe, get in touch with our center and leave all the negative voices, worries, and fears behind. A place where we can just be ourselves. Where we can gain access to our inner wisdom and find balance and peace.

If you have a regular meditation practice, that’s great. That’s one way to get to this place. But what if you feel like you just don’t have the time or patience to meditate? 

      I have found a few activities that help me get in touch with my inner center: 
      1. Taking a Walk or Being in Nature: 
      There is something about just being outside and breathing fresh air that has a calming effect on me. It gets me to stop whatever I am doing and out of my head. 
      2. Practicing a One Minute Meditation:
      This is perfect if you need some calmness, but don’t have a lot of time or have found meditation difficult. You can meditate for just one minute and find focus on peace.  Learn how in this great video.

           3. Experiencing the 90 second Relaxation Exercise: This is great if you are doing work on the computer and need to take a quick break.  Just go here to relax…

I invite you to try them out and see if they help you find your quiet place. Or maybe there are other activities that help you find the calmness you seek. What are they? How can you practice them more regularly so you can bring more peace into your life?

Monday, September 17, 2012

If I Feel Depressed I Will Sing

"If I feel depressed I will sing. If I feel sad I will laugh. If I feel ill I will double my labor. If I feel fear I will plunge ahead. If I feel inferior I will wear new garments. If I feel uncertain I will raise my voice. If I feel poverty I will think of wealth to come. If I feel incompetent I will think of past success. If I feel insignificant I will remember my goals. Today I will be the master of my emotions."
 ~Og Mandino

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Do Not To Give Up Hope

 "The secret is not to give up hope. It's very hard not to because if you're really doing something worthwhile I think you will be pushed to the brink of hopelessness before you come through the other side."
~George Lucas

Friday, September 7, 2012

Take Action When Things Look Scary

The following message from the Universe landed in my Inbox this week.  What a great reminder!

“When you move, I move. When you reach, I reach. And when you go the extra mile, I clear the way. But not a moment sooner.

Which is why before you move, reach, and go, things sometimes look so scary.”
~The Universe

It’s so true. If we want something to be different, WE have to take action. Hoping that things will change by themselves doesn’t help. Procrastinating or waiting for a more perfect time doesn’t solve the problem. Nobody will come to rescue us.

When we sit there and wait, we are giving away our power. By taking Radical Self-Responsibility, we empower ourselves. And by taking action, opportunities will appear, support becomes available, and more possibilities emerge.

So when things look scary, it’s not a sign to take refuge in your comfort zone. It’s the perfect time to take a bold step forward.

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