Living purposefully means working towards and reaching goals
we have set for ourselves, living productively, and effectively using our
abilities and talents.
So if living purposefully is a major component of
self-esteem, does it mean that people who are high achievers have a healthy
sense of self-esteem? Not necessarily. All too often, people who accumulate a
lot of external achievements may have gotten there because they wanted to prove
their worth. Some have achieved a lot in their career, but their personal
relationships are in shambles. Others may hide behind work in order to escape
from other realities in their life.
I know this only too well from my own experience. In my
previous career, I wanted to prove myself and my worth through my work, which
gave me a tremendous amount of motivation to achieve. It seemed easier to “escape”
into work and focus on it, so I wouldn’t have to worry about other aspects of
my life. And while the external achievements helped build some validation and esteem,
it didn’t really help me feel better about myself.
One thing I was missing was a higher purpose: what was I
doing everything for? Of course I could set goals for myself: Take on more
responsibility, get a promotion, buy a nice house. But these goals didn’t mean
very much without a bigger purpose- and not just for my work, but for my life.
Companies usually have a mission statement that guides the
development of a vision and goals. And as part of my job in strategic planning,
I applied these principles at work all the time. But I had no idea how to
figure out my personal mission statement, until I left the corporate world and went
to train as a coach.
How do you figure out your purpose? The best way to identify
your purpose is with the help of others. But you can start the process
yourself. Here is one way to begin: Take
a sheet of paper and write “My purpose in life is to...” at the top. Then start
writing as many different endings to the sentence as you can, without thinking
too much. Just keep on going, filling the page. Put the paper away and revisit
it later, marking the endings that resonate the most with you. This is a
starting point – there will definitely be some clues to your purpose in life on
that page.
The other important component of Living Purposefully is to
set goals and take action. Once you know your purpose, it’s time to set specific
goals that are in line with your purpose and identify action items to reach
those goals.
I believe that our life purpose evolves over time, so it’s
fine to start with something now and clarify or edit it later. My life purpose
right now is to fall in love with myself and my life, and help others do the
same. So my goals, whether it’s developing new workshops, spending time with my
friends and loved ones, or writing a book, have a deeper meaning because they help
me live my purpose.
How are you living your purpose today?
Living Purposefully is the 5th Pillar from Dr.
Nathaniel Branden’s book “The 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem.”
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